I came to a realization recently there is no amount of self-improvement or fixing myself, that would allow my mind to agree that I am worthy and deserving of love.
My mind loves to put me down, no matter what I do. I realized that this was an unwinnable game. If I fixed this habit or let go of an addiction or achieved a certain level of financial well-being or achieved a certain goal, my mind would still find fault.
This is the human condition, always chasing something outside of ourselves that we feel will make us feel better and thus make us feel more worthy and deserving of love. Much of this comes from programming from our parents, our teachers, our workplace and our society.
Those of us that have been abused in some way have this further entrenched in our mind. The mind cannot understand why as children we would be abused, so it makes up a story of how it was our fault. Now is the time to move beyond this programming and destroy the illusion of not being worthy and loveable.
Fixing ourselves is not the answer. It doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t strive to improve ourselves but we shouldn’t allow it to be used by the mind as a way to defer self-acceptance, self-love, and self-worth. You don’t have to do or be anything to be worthy of love. It’s your natural state of being.
We just have to move beyond the mind and reside in the heart. Love, accept and appreciate yourself now. This is how you are loved by the Divine, without condition. Drop all the judgments of the mind. Don’t listen to the mind when it’s trying to pull you down.
Here is a short exercise you can use. Put your hand over your heart and say “your name, I love, accept, and appreciate EVERYTHING about you”. Say it three times and repeat often.
You are a Divine being. Your true nature is love. You don’t have to do or be anything to be worthy of love. Just the fact you are here and breathing is enough.
Loving yourself is the way to fix yourself. Take time to love and appreciate yourself today.